I distributed yesterday on my Facebook page the video below which has over 11 million views and which was very appreciated by you too. I liked it, I resonated with it so I posted it on my page as an exhortation to all women to be more confident when it comes to their own image.
The video dismantles the main ones myths (if I may say so) about what women who have more generous shapes or who wear more than size 42 on clothes cannot. And honestly, it was a reminder even for me who is quite open when it comes to experimenting in terms of clothing.
But this morning I saw that I received a comment that intrigued me, but with which I resonated at the same time. And so began a whole debate in my mind on this subject. I leave below the comment received and my thoughts on it. I think both you and I could have something to learn from this. It doesn't matter who said that, I just want to debate the idea.
Of course I can wear it. This does not mean that they benefit from some of these outfits.
At first I felt it as a hate comment, that only in writing can we interpret the tone as we want and unfortunately we can often be wrong. Then I realized that he was right in what he said. There are certain style rules that can help us have a beautiful and harmonious final look. If you respect them, in over 99% cases you will be successful in making the outfit. Then comes my grumpy part that reminds us that many of these rules are only applicable to filiform or at most normal silhouettes.
Then I went even further to what I really feel and what I consider to be the really important things I should (or should take) into account. I really enjoy experimenting, and one of the most important things I've learned in image consulting sessions is that you have to try any piece and try any combination of pieces before making a decision whether or not they fit you. Many times it happened to me to create an outfit in my mind, and when I tried them in the mirror it was a total fiasco. Or, I refused to try something, thinking it would definitely not be good for me, and when I looked in the mirror I fell in love instantly. The most recent example is the pair of boyfriend jeans I posed for Lee Cooper. When I heard that I was going to pose in the boyfriend model, I became anxious / panicked. But as a customer, he is a customer, I went to the booth and tried them on. I wanted to buy them on the spot. Guess who hasn't come out of that pair of jeans since then? And I didn't even want to try them on.… I just always thought that my big hips would never look good in a pair of boyfriend jeans. And I gave you this example, just because it's the latest, but I have a bunch.
The truth is that there are things that do not benefit us, but maybe in the right combination things change. In addition, there are many more things that benefit us than those that do not put us in the best light. And then, isn't it better to focus on what we like and feel good about?
I think it is very important to wear what we like and to adopt a style that makes us feel not only comfortable, but very confident. I remember attending an event in an outfit built by a stylist. I looked good, but I didn't feel comfortable. And that not only was seen, but made me convey insecurity to those around me. So, I'd rather wear an outfit that I consider beautiful than one that I don't feel.
Experience has taught me that I convey what I feel. If I feel beautiful, sexy and confident in a polka dot skirt, why not wear it? Just because women with generous hips are advised to wear prints at the top and dark colors at the bottom so as not to attract attention? Should I give up tapered skirts and molded dresses just because I have a prominent belly and hips? In my opinion, this type of dress looked good even when I wore the size 50 to one meter and sixty centimeters tall as I am, and the size 42 that I wear now, but it also fits perfectly to my friend Andreea who has a gorgeous body and one meter seventy-three centimeters high. What do you think?
I think that we, as women, should be informed and have a minimum of stylistic education. It is very good to know the main rules of style, to know what we know recommends wearing, being up to date with trends and reading the literature, whether we are talking about glossy magazines, fashion books or style blogs. Then, let's make our own decisions and build our own style based primarily on personal preferences, and only then taking into account the rules. At least if you keep violating them, make it informed and assumed.
But my main urge remains to dare and prove before you decide that a certain thing is not done for you.. And I'm just telling you how I came into possession of the pink dress, which I noticed that you also liked very much. I really like the color pink, but somehow it hasn't made much room in my wardrobe in recent years. It wasn't something studied, that's just how it happened. I saw this pink dress in a Reserved store about 3 weeks ago when there were discounts in stores. They only had the S and M measures, which made me a little difficult. However, I decided to try it because that's how I learned. At the test booth I couldn't close the zipper. I asked the girl at the cabin for help, but she couldn't either. I asked her if it was because she was too small, or if the zipper didn't work. It was the zipper that didn't go beyond the seam at the waist. I took off the dress, closed the zipper up to the waist and put it on again. This time I managed to close it up, only the neckline had become more generous than I am used to wearing. But the length was perfect, the waist was beautifully contoured, I liked the material, and the color fascinated me. I bought it. I said I have no reason to hide the fact that I am a woman with a (still) quite generous bust and that I have to camouflage the deep neckline of the dress, so I decided to wear it with a bra that attracts even more attention. in that area, but that completes the look. I walked all over Cluj in this outfit, I also went to the Depeche Mode concept dressed like that because I didn't have time to go to change, I gathered a lot of beautiful memories and I posted this picture on my social networks , and you liked it. I think you liked it too because I told you I like it.
So what can you wear if you are a woman with shapes? Just about everything you like and where you feel comfortable, beautiful, sexy or just plain good.
What can't you wear if you're a shapely woman? Clothes in which you do not feel well.